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Why has our almost 4 year old daughter gone backwards, behaviour wise!

Examples:
Putting her shoes on the wrong feet, refusing to put them on the right (she did put them on right before)
Wiping her poo on our walls,
Putting her school bag down the toilet,
Hiding things and forgetting where she put them - things that are important and needed,
She never ever tells us she has done these things so we don't feel it's attention seeking.
Her general understanding of simple explanations is no longer there or hardly there.
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Fran H
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Autism and ADHD. Have your tried putting her on a diet that has no additives i.e. E numbers. I don't know if you are in the UK or not but there have been Mum's on these daytime shows with children with problems like this and they have changed their diets and it seems to have calmed the child down.

You could look on the Internet to see if you could get some ideas.

My daughter has Tourette Syndrome I joined the Tourette Syndrome Society and got so much information from them.

Besides which, they will give you address of Self Help Groups locally in your area. These are very useful because you meet Parent's who have children with the same problems and difficulties, even though they may have varying degrees of the disability, and get ideas of how to cope. It is stressful, I know, but a good routine is very useful too.

Anyway, contact the Autism Society and they are the best to advise you.



God Bless,

Thinking of you,Take Care,



Mother of a gorgeous daughter, who does not let the Tourettes get her down. As she says I wouldn't be me without it would I Mum.

Very intelligent too.

Well liked, sense of humour and everyone at work loves her, so they tell me.

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4real
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It could be something she is eating that could be affecting her. I would ask the daycare/school for a menu on wut she is eating, her diet may have to be changed.

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MomKnows...
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Did she get vaccinated recently? That may be a link to explore.

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Xai
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Have there been other other changes in your family dynamic? New baby/school/house etc? Or maybe she's just trying to test you, to see what happens if she does these things.

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memyselfand i
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i dunno if not for attention and some sort of reaction then maybe you need to ask her doc, good luck

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Bethaney Duke
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maybe shes getting it from someone at school

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shawn
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your letting her..

she did all that stuff as a trick at an earlier stage.. oooh look I do this and mommy and daddy are happy.. she performed a learned trick..now.. as she gains her own indepent thoughts the are over ridding her learned tricks.. it's almost fun for her to do things another way ..just to see results of it! She is also finding your boundaries.. or limits.. !! I agree I don't think it's an attention thing.. it's just a stage of free form and free thought.. you must now enforce your rules .. and right from wrong.. because at her age now a smile from mommy and daddy does not mean what it used to! make her look you in the eyes when you talk .. hold her head steady if necessary !! good luck

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Lenny
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I don't know the answer, but sometimes kids are weird and when that weirdness is poured over and we wring our hands, it just makes them do it all the more - you say it's not attention seeking and yet here you are, on here asking this question and have her seeing a specialist - she's certainly got your attention!



All kids want is time spent playing and talking to them, love and fun. Sounds to me like she's an only child. Try to balance love and care with a healthy dose of "haven't got the time to deal with your tantrams" it's a difficult one and if it doesn't come naturally, then it's gonna be harder. Just take a step back, don't obsess and remember she's only a baby really. She'll change. It's simple really. Reward good behaviour, ignore bad. By ignore I mean say "well that was a daft thing to do, I'm surprised you did that" then leave it. Don't look at her, don't go on - then change the subject and get over it. When she does something good, say well done.

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lilmomma
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did she just start school? (you said school bag...) or, is there a new baby in the house? any big changes? sometimes a child can react to changes by regressing... the 'new' world is scary so the 'old' world, in which these changes did not exist, and in which the child was younger... is preferred. so the child acts much younger in order to try to get back to that place... keep praising her for being such a BIG girl... help her remember all the great cool things she can only do as a big girl... if it continues and she seems truly confused by it too, then by all means, take her in... and just because it's an attention seeking behavior doesn't mean the child's doing it on purpose!!! good luck and tc....



well, with the additional info, it does sound as if there is more than just behavioral issues going on... you're so right to have a specialist look into it...and be ready if there is some autism. it's going to be a long hard road...and at the same time, a very rewarding one. i have a pal with an autistic child... it's hard for them to love a child that hasn't the ability to love back, but they are DOING it! and sounds like your daughter... if it IS autism... is very high functioning..... good luck...

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chick250...
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These are behaviour symtoms and it looks to me that something or someone has done something to your kid and thats why she is lashing out this way - its a cry for help she wants to let you know someone is bothering her and she is probably too scared to tell you. Perhaps her friends are being nasty to her something has been said at school for her to act this way.



My advice would be to sit down your child and gently try and find out whats going on, perhaps not speak to her directly as if your giving her a lecture but maybe through her favourite toy try pretending to speak through him and get her to open up via that toy,



If the problem persists i would speak to her teacher to see what is happening school wise as this could be why she is regressing, also many kids tend to regress if their parents are fighting and their is arguments.



I would also then consult your doctor.



Hope this helps smilies/smiley.gif

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NEMESIS
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well, it starts with the parents or maybe the pre-natal drugs kinda wacked off her potential genes of becoming a normal child.

Or maybe, she had enough of whats really going on in pre-school...



cause and affect

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