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The sensible thing to do is to abort.





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I would say not to get an abortion, but that is my opinion. You could always put it up for adoption, and maybe you could tell your mom, "mom, can i please move back in with you, i am gonna stay pregnant but as soon as the baby is born, i am putting it up for adoption."



I know you don't want a lecture so i won't lecture you about abortion, all i want to say is please don't kill the baby they didn't do anything wrong.

I think you already know what would be best for yourself - you don't want your boyfriend or to be stuck with him. Having a child with him will stick him to you the rest of your life, eliminating an unwanted pregnancy will cure you of that tumor (the bf). You can keep the potential baby of course, and go to school, but it will be really hard also.



Actually, it sounds like you really want to get away from the bf right now as well. I think the solution and your answer is quite clear to you - you know what you need to do.

To be completely honest if i was you, i would have an abortion and dump my boyfriend, but i'm not you and this is 100% your decision nobody else's,



To me you dont sound as though your happy at all.



Good luck in whatever you decided to do and you are lucky to have a supporting mum xx

If you don't want to be tied to him forever...you know your option. Just cause he was on heroin, doesn't mean it will pass on to your child. If you really want it, have it and have him give up his rights...of course u will be a single parent, which is a lot of work, along with being a full time student....



Do what you feel is best for you. First, it involves moving out of your boyfriend's house...

This is 100% your decision. You got yourself into this situation, so YOU are going to have to figure out what to do. Dating a man on disability who has a history of heroin addiction? You really picked a winner, didn't ya? Good luck.

You're 27 years old. Plenty old enough to be responsible for your actions. You need to deal with this yourself, no one on here can make this decision for you. You also shouldn't allow your mother to make it for you either. It's time to grow up.

It sounds like you've already made up your mind, so why ask for opinions? I couldn't abort because the child is half me too, irregardless of who the father is. Next time, don't have sex with a guy you'ld not want to parent your child.

You are old enought to make your own desicions, but you should keep it no matter what anyone says. Even if you dont plan on being with this guy forever, bringing life into this world is a beautiful thing. Good Luck in making your desicion.

I think you need to break up with the boyfriend. He doesn't sound fit to be a father (no offense). If you don't want to raise the child (or be pregnant during college), then you could have the abortion. It's up to you.

Please don't have an abortion. what if your mom had a abortion with you. give that baby a chance to live and to live a wonderful life. if you don't want the baby then give it up for adoption.

You have to do what YOU want to. It's your life. None of us should be making this decision for you. But, on the other hand, mothers tend to know best.

Just because HE is a heroine addict dosent mean your child will be.

Yes if you leave the father it will be hard, but you can do it.

one, heroin addiction is not genetic.



two, you can still finish college. I went to college while I had a baby.

You have to do what is the best for you. No one can tell you what to do but you.

If you cant afford the baby,then yes.

But you dont want to, obviously.

What about sticking it out with them for the nine months and giving the baby up for adoption?

if you dont want to have children then dont. i wouldnt tie myself to that kind of family situation either.

this is your choice really but it seems likr you have made up your mind if your not willing to get a job then you cant take care of a baby anyway

then get an abortion and leave him. college is more important

well dear there is this thing called FAFSA . it helps you pay for college when you cant afford it. Try using that since you are over 25 you can get it without having your moms information on there..Tell your mom what ever money she helps you with for college ask her to help buy baby stuff. There is also a program called WIC it gives you food while your pregnant and when the baby is born it pays for all formula. Look into that after your first doctor appointment so you can show proof your pregnant..Also with the fafsa your probably going to get a return check that usually comes to a thousand or more dollars. you can use that to buy clothing and a bed for the baby...and as for ur bf's family tell them to back off your the one dating him and you dont have to give any reciepts to them...Well I hope everything works out for the best goodluck and please do not have an abortiong there are plenty of people willing to take your child if you do not have the funds to support it.

Look, if you have this baby you will always have a tie with the family from hell. It doesn't sound like he is going to be able to be much of a provider, and you've said you're not happy.



You need to finish college, create a life worthy of bringing a child in to the world for.



At the moment, you are in the middle of a railway crash.



If I was you and the same situation applied, I would abort.

Then move home with mom.

And don't date losers or psychopaths again.



You've been given a lucky break. See it for what it is. You could have continued sloping on in this destructive, non functional relationship forever.



Get out. Now.

You just answered your own question. If you are not sure, don't do it.



I don't understand your mom's motivation. She should support you (emotionally) not be pushing you into a decision. If you need to talk to someone, call a planned parenthood or church in your area.



Okay, I was trying to leave personal experience out of my answer, but I can't do it. When I became pregnant for my oldest daughter I was 20. Her father and I were divorcing, I was living back with my parents. It was a mess. But, she and I made it through. I am now almost thirty. H is a wonderful, smart, caring little girl. I am now married to someone I truly love. We don't have the perfect life but we have a good life. Some people say that they would change things they have done in the past. I would not. Being pregnant and having H by myself and with little support from my mom and verbal abuse (about having a child out of wedlock) from my dad, was not easy. However, without those experiences I would not have what I have now. And by the way, my dad got over me having a child out of wedlock - something about a baby melts even the iciest heart.

you cannot come on to a PUBLIC forum and ask for peoples oppinions and then say pro choice answers only. you are going to get everybodys opinion that is the point of yahoo answers like someone said before it sounds like you already know what you want to do is that what you want from people to give u a pat on the back and "ya sure kill your kid" i dont blame you" i think what you are looking for is peace of mind for doing something you know is wrong well sorry your not getting it from me. Oh and if your BF is that bad how about LEAVE HIM!

Meg,



You need to forget about what your mom wants and think about yourself and the baby you might bring into this world. Is this the right time for you to have a baby? Are you comfortable with the responsibility of raising a child? Are you willing to always have ties with a family that you say you can't stand?



Only you know the answers to those questions. My girlfriend was pregnant earlier this year, and we had a lot of pressure to abort the baby. Finally, we had to decide for ourselves what was right, and that meant putting all of the battles with my dad and her parents to the side and making the right choice. Of course, there's a part of me that wanted to keep the baby, but in the end, my girlfriend decided that an abortion was for the best, and I 100% supported her choice.



It's not about what your mom wants. If you want to have this baby, by all means have it. If you don't think now it a good time to have a baby, then you know what you need to do. I don't know if you believe in God, but if so, pray about it. That's what my girlfriend and I did, and in the end, The Lord led us to the best decision we could have made.

just because you have a baby with someone doesnt mean you're tied to his family....you're only going to be tied to him since he is the father. i dont think you should have an abortion. you choose to have sex and not use a condom so you should step up to the plate and not get an abortion because you made a mistake. your old enough to know common sense so if you can spread your legs then you can take care of child and not take the easy way out by getting an abortion cause your mom says to do it. you're old enough to know right from wrong...so if you get an abortion you're ending a childs life that didnt even ask you to be born.



also if you knew your bf had a history of being a heroin addict why would you want to be with someone like that? how do you know he's not going to shoot up again?

Well i am prolife, but i use to be prochoice, what waved my decision was when i fell pregnant at 16, i was worse off then you, but i did graduate from high school and now go to college, its not impossible to finish school, and by the time you do have the baby you will only have a couple of months left, your biological clock is ticking, and you could always get sole custody for your child especially if the father cannot provide for the baby and he has past drug problems



If i was 16 when i was pregnant and still continued my education, i believe a 27 yr old can do it too



just my opinion



and i think your mother will help you either way, she may say one thing but when it comes down to it, i think she will help you with your decision



It does sound like your leaning towards abortion but you are still debating or you wouldn't of asked the question, but its up to you, if you go into this with doubt you will come out with doubts, so make sure its what you want 100%, because each will have its own consequences, you just have to figure out which ones you can live with, some people have an abortion and go on with their life and never think of of it, others will go thir whole lives with "what if" and persoanlly i would not want to live with an "what if...?"



I now have a beautiful daughter and couldn't imagine my life without her, my mom practically forced me to try and get an abortion, and when i decided to keep, she was frantic, but now she couldn't be happier with my decision, and is in love with her grandchild

I'm so sorry you are in this situation. I've worked with both sides in a professional manner, as well as having many friends on both sides of this decision . There are consequenses to both choices, even though some may disagree. People may think that by having an abortion, you are avoiding consequences, but it just brings different ones. Explore those consequenses. Talk to people who have had abortions and ask them thier experiences years later. Some say "good" some say "bad". Be willing to view the total picture, and then make a truly informed choice that you can live with.



The answer cannot be found externally. Only internally. Inside YOU, is the answer. And only YOU will have to live with the consequences of your decision.



My prayers are with you.

i think u must have abortion....do u want that guy to be ur kid's father? and his parents as grandparents of ur child? ur mom is the closest person to u....have the abortion before its too late....ur bf doesnt deserve being a father

can you afford the baby? if not then yes get an abortion

I think that you should abort it. I'm sorry, but the man's not worth it.



27 years old is actually one of the best times to start a family, but since you guys aren't married, engaged or any of that sort, getting an abortion would be your best choice even if it were to take an innocent kid's life away. Pray to God and seek his forgiveness. But please bear in mind not to repeat such a mistake. Use protection!



The bottom line is to give yourself some time to think things through. Follow your heart.



All the best