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Re abortion - if you are only 3 months gone you could still have one - but do it quickly if you are going to take that route. You need to talk heart to heart with your b/friend. He was probably trying to impress you at the beginning of your relationship and may now feel trapped as you are pregnant - hence his ignoring you in hospital. Luckily you aren't legally hitched to him so you could leave him now with an abortion and a clean slate. He may just be a constant liar and can't help himself. But it's up to you to have a long talk to him about all this, the lying, the pregnancy, what his plans for the future are, with or without you? Is he sticking around just because you are pregnant and he feels guilty about it? Get to the truth if you can and then decide whether to ditch him or not. Getting pregnant without a proper commitment from a guy is rather silly. Mothers and babies need financial and emotional support. Good luck to you whatever you decide.

Confront him about it, he was trying to impress you obviously and seem smart. It was a simple mistake that I'm sure he probably wishes he hadn't made in the first place. He was probably afraid to tell you the truth because he thought you were impressed by it. But don't get rid of him just for that.

doesnt sound like a major lie, maybe he is ashamed of his job role and wanted to sound better? and by your term of "hes just a private" seems to show that you look down on that. a job is a job, as long as he provides for you and your unborn child, is a nice guy then so what if he lied about his job? atleast he has one.

well lying about his job was a big deal for sure, but if you love him, then its not the bee all and end all. Id certainly tackle him on why he lied - but if its something silly like he was trying to impress you - or wanted to make his job sound better, then I wouldnt be too harsh. If you love him at the end of the day - have the baby and just start with a clean slate with him

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First find out why he lied then make your decision based on that. I don't think you should punish your unborn child by aborting it though. It's not the babies fault. You do realize the heart starts beating around 6 weeks of gestation. I believe it is every womens right to choose but once there is a heart beat to me abortion is no longer an option. Good luck.

i suggest you confront him and tell him what u plan to do. its not this babys fault that he lied, but that doesnt mean he doesnt care about you either. some people just dont show it enough. let him know you want him to be around for this child and for you. make it clear that no matter how bad his lies were you want to know everything he lied to you about. say you wont be mad at him if he comes clean and promises not to lie again. tell him you love him and not his job. of course, only say all this if you mean it.

First of all ... abortion is not the answer. I don't believe in God (per say) ... but I still reckon it's a sin.

Maybe he wanted to inflate his career a little to impress you and it went too far. As for the functions ... you can't party late when you're pregnant so what're you worried about.

I would confront and then decide whether or not to dump.

Everybody lies. Sounds like he was just trying to make himself good enough for you. Do you love him? If you do, try to work it out. If you don't, make him history. You won't be the first girl to raise a baby by herself. Also, the Army will MAKE him pay his child support.

whatever you do DO NOT have an abortion.. please... my bf is a private in the army too... its pretty wierd that he would lie about something like that.. thats not cool.. but maybe he wanted you to think higher of him.. he wants you to be proud and is worried about the whole situation... i dont think anybody should lie for any reason.. espescially when they have no reason to.. but give him the benefit of the doubt and find out what his reasons were and try to work it out..

ask him why he felt the need to lie in the first place. maybe he was just trying to impress you - listen to his side of the story before making your choice as to whether you still want to be with him.



dont abort the baby for the mistakes he has made its not fair on the baby - its not the babys fault. if you do decide to leave him but scared of bringing the baby up alone y dont u talk to your freinds and family - im sure they would help you - no1 is ever alone theres always help out there

Stay with him and the baby. He probably loves you so much he really wants to impress you. it must be hard to deal with the fact that he lied. but if you talk to him kindly about it there may be a reason he lied. Please dont even think about an abortion - every1 diserves life!



Hope i helped - the best thing to do is just talk to him.

Well, its a difficult one, but i think if it was me i would certainly confront him about what youve found out.....maybe he was trying to impress you, maybe he thought it would put you off that he was just a private......see what he says and take it from there.....x

this is tricky maybe he has someone else? or maybe knowing that he would have to take u to one of his dos then you would find out that hes only a private eitherway you need to find out what he wants to do and why he lied to you and then make a decision

You should find out what else he is lying about, as in my opinion one lie usually leads to more lies. Confront him before you decide on doing anything. I hope you get it sorted as there is now a baby involved.

Confront him and tell him to tell you the truth, otherwise you can't be with him because he's a liar. Is abortion really what you want??

you can be a medic and a private...



medic is a job not a rank, so perhaps he's not lying!!

talk to him about it! get to the bottom of it, find out why he lied and then make a joint decision on what to do!

you need to confront him but you don't need to get an abortion it's not fair on the baby.

hope everything works out for you

Find out why he lied to you. Im sure he still loves you, and deep down you still love him. Dont jump to any unnecessary conclusions

Get a lawyer to make sure he lives up to his child support obligations and dump him.

Confront, dump, but don't abort. It's not your baby's fault that his father is a liar.

Talk to him. Have a long talk and see how things turn out. Tell him exactly how you feel.! I don't think you should abort.



Good Luck!

Abortion, as dumb as you sound the world don't need another one of you

sounds like he was just trying to impress.

Continue with him, and the baby, providing this is his only lie.

abort? how is this the babies fault? confront him ask him why he lies!!!

ugh

think you should tell him what goin on in your head

talk with him openly



both of u should meet councellor

ok first things first-do not get the abortion- if anything put the baby for adoption or give it to a great set of married couples who have been trying to have children but cant...if u cant handle the guy then u should dump him... if he is willing to fess up and admit to his lies and start all over and help u with the child then do it...but dont make urself miserable...but try to make him open up and make it clear to him that if he wants to stay in your life to come clean with you...but remeber guys cant always be trusted...good luck!!!! i wish all the best for u and ur child and ur life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

the baby is yours and alive, surely the baby doesnt deserve to be punished? im not really anti abortion but i think it should be done for the right reasons. not just cos the dad upset you. i had an awful pregnancy and birth, but really, it is worth it. i think you need to talk to him and try to find out why he lied. it might not be malicious, wen you meet sum1 you tend to embellish your life, sometimes its hard to go back on these embellishments. you need to talk to him! and try to contain your hormones....if you are really in love and ment to be i think you should be able to work it out. communication is paramount!

o-k, well he probably start lying to you from the beginning just to impress you and do what guys generally want to do. Not expecting to get into a long term he couldn't find out how to tell you he had lied, obviously he has come clean with you so it can't be all bad. Unfortunatly if you continue with your relationship it will always be on the back of your mind that your relationship was initially built on a lie however small. The positive thing about all of this is he has given you the beautiful gift of life so please don't consider abortion especially after three months of pragnancy. Follow your heart if you think he's a liar dump him cause there is nothing worse than a bare faced liar.....remembering the baby has done nothing wrong!